Tuesday, May 27, 2008

New sibling?

I have a question for you. What would you do/how would you feel if you found out that you had another sibling? More specifically....

A couple of weeks ago, Vol Fan and I had dinner with his brother and wife. During the meal, the conversation veered onto my adoption and my birth family. I have found my birth mother and met most of my family on her side.

I have not met my birth father. (I don't really know if I want to or not.) I do know his name and have done a bit of stalking, finding out about where he lives, children, etc.

But this conversation set my wheels to spinning about his children. He has 2 sons and a daughter. So what do you think they would do or feel if I suddenly popped into their lives?

In all likelihood, they do not know about me. Very possibly, their mother does not know either. The fathering of a child is much easier to hide than the mothering of a child.

But even that can be hidden. When my birth mother passed away, I went to her funeral and let's just say that quite a few jaws had to be picked up off of the floor. Her husband did not know about me and I happen to look just like her. Imagine the shock - being at a funeral and in walks your dead wife!! (Since he was a real son-of-a-bitch, I was pretty glad to let him find out in that manner.) In hindsight, it's pretty funny but at the time, pretty uncomfortable!

But, anyway, back to the question - what would you do??


Corinne said...

Hi there Lori, found you through Cool Broad's site.

I think I would be a little shocked at first but would be willing to get to know my new sibling. Hopefully your siblings will give you a chance.

Philly said...

I say go and shock the shit out of all of them !