Sometimes....

Sometimes seeing karma in action can be really sad. Sometimes seeing someone having to lie in a bed of their own making is really sad. Sometimes seeing someone realize, too late, that they made the wrong choices is really sad.

(And, no, I'm not talking about the bozos that Vol Fan fired on Monday.)

I am talking about Vol Fan's grandmother.

When I married Vol Fan, I was in for a shock when I met his family. They make dysfunctional sound like a good thing.

Vol Fan's father was one of six children. Of these children, his mother had favorites and made no bones about who her favorites were. Vol Fan's father was not one of the chosen ones. Because of that, Vol Fan and his siblings were not one of the chosen grandchildren.

Unfortunately, Memaw made very poor choices in who her favorites were.

So now, as she faces her last days, she knows that she made poor choices. The person that is doing the majority of the work in caring for her? The wife of Vol Fan's father. Yes, a daughter-in-law. One that was married to an un-favorite child that has been deceased for 7 years.

The favorites? They can't be bothered.

So Memaw is alone. Knowing now that she made some terrible choices. But it is too late. There are some things that just can't be undone. When Vol Fan was old enough to realize that his grandmother really could care less about him, he chose to spare himself the pain of rejection. He struggles to find the sadness that he thinks he should feel at the loss of his grandmother.

I think he lost her long, long ago.

But Vol Fan is nothing if not a good guy, so he will be traveling to Knoxville for a few days to lend support to his mother. He is worried that one of the chosen ones will get a case of diarrhea of the mouth. It has been known to happen. And they have been known to say disparaging things about his mom, even though she is (and has been for years and years) the one that is caring for their mother.

Remember him over the next few days. Hopefully he won't punch someone and end up in jail.